Have you ever been walking through the mall and saw a couple that just made you wonder, “how did those two end up together?” Over drinks earlier this week, a girlfriend and I started chatting about this topic of how certain people are in a relationship, but we were having such a hard time finding love.
She had heard that apparently the more attractive a woman or man is, the more intimidating they are to approach. I had heard this before about myself, but I never thought it was just based on my appearance. I have a strong personality and I’m independent, so I thought it was those qualities that made me intimidating. For a guy to not approach me simply based on how I look, is so unfair! I don’t understand the fear of rejection that most men have. I look at it like, you have a 50/50 shot and really nothing to lose. If someone approaches me and Im not interested, its nothing lost to him since he never had me to lose in the first place. But if he never talks to me and I was checking him out, then we both miss out if he doesn’t approach. This exact scenario happened to me months ago. I was at a bar and noticed a guy, flashed a smile and we caught eyes, but he never walked over to say hi. An hour later, I am at a different spot and he is there and the same thing happens, he is staring at me but still doesn’t approach me. So I end up being the one to walk right up to him and question his hesitation. At this point he had to know he wasn’t going to get rejected because I had already been caught checking him out. So what was it? He proceeds to tell me that he wasn’t sure about the group I was with, if I was with someone. If I’m smiling at you that doesn’t tell you I’m single?
Most girls go out in groups, and this apparently is another obstacle that men find intimidating. This one I can understand a little better, however there are opportunities that can be created in order to draw one girl out. Fellas we are much simpler than you think. Humor wins over a cheesy pick up line any day. Most woman will remember a guy that made them laugh over the guy that bought them a drink. Some of us ladies, like myself do no notice the staring from a distance so you have to bite the bullet and walk up to the pretty girl and make her laugh. Just this past weekend I was introduced to someone for a split second. Days later in the most random way, I find out that he had actually seen me out a week before…his words “and stared for a bit.” My initial reaction of course was “why didn’t you say anything.” His response, “Hi I’m …, you make my pants tight. Nice to meet you.” Of course I immediately started laughing and told him that would have totally worked had he said that to me that night.
Fellas please don’t make assumptions, there are still some pretty girls who aren’t not taken and not mean. There is nothing to be intimidated by, confidence is one of the sexiest qualities a man could possess. Till next time….