Is chivalry dead? Where did chivalry and manners go? Am I expecting too much? What happened to opening car doors and not burping in public while walking with me? I was raised to say please and thank you. I’m starting to wonder is it just how people were raised or something more to it. I heard that women have lowered the standards. There are no longer any expectations of a man to pull out chairs or open doors. After some time of being together, apparently we as woman stop expecting it and become even more self sufficient. Not sure where this idea came from. My parents have been married for 40 years and my dad still opens the door for my mom. Those gestures don’t have expiration dates.
When I am invited into someones home and I use a glass, I will wash my glass and put it away. If I spend the night, I will make the bed. These are just common courtesy things that have been instilled in me. Is it too much to expect the same in return. A simple thank you no longer exists in the dating world. There is a level of expectation that comes with dating that apparently excludes thank you’s and compliments. I know I’ve been out of the dating game a long time, but these are things that are just non-negotiable. I have been called high maintenance and maybe this is why. I would like a compliment when I go out with you. I would like my car door opened. I would like a thank you when I let you in and share my world with you.
I was watching the Steve Harvey show and he had a few guys on there who had a problem with taking women out to dinner for financial reasons. Making it seem that women are only after a free meal. Not saying that those girls don’t exist but, they are not the norm. Steve Harvey pointed out that most women will buy a new outfit and or get their hair and nails done for that date, which usually ends up being more expensive than the date he’s taking her on. I would add that most women would rather a thoughtful date over an expensive dinner any day, I mean anyone can make dinner reservation. Planning a date that includes a meal you made, or just simply sitting under the stars with a bottle of wine and some candles and just talking goes a long way. Fellas if you throw in something she mentioned she loves, she will be putty in your hands.
Remember the chivalry, manners and appreciation. It goes a long way, more than you will ever realize. Don’t let any woman strip those qualities from you. Appreciation goes a long way, a person who feel appreciated will always do more than what is expected. Till next time…